I think I’m finally understanding why wedding planning is so hard. Because the world is not made up of Type As. Eff you B’s! Ok maybe that was a little harsh, but in all honesty, why can’t people be good, efficient and friendly?
So wedding planning has been in full-force since PB and I got engaged. Literally since about day 1. And everything seemed to have fallen into place pretty easily… we found a venue we absolutely fell in love with and started to piece together the theme, colors, etc… Now the problem with having ideas is that you want them. Ha.
I would say we’ve had minor bumps in the road like PB and I have very different tastes. So color wise he’s giving me what I want. Theme wise I also get what I want. Well I could go down the list but honestly I get to have pretty much whatever I want. He’s been really easy to work with in that regard. But at the same time, as much as he wants me to have what I want, I want him to have what he wants as well. I want him to love our wedding day. You know when you want to share the same love of everything that has to do with the both of you? I don’t know how to explain it without sounding super girly and overly emotional but I want him to be overjoyed… not wanting any more.
Anyway, so there’s a dilemma with getting what you want (first world problems, I know).
So I’ve been struggling with that quite a bit. I am super nervous about my dress (yes, that whole thing) because it’s an exuberant amount of money to spend on one article of clothing. And PB’s expressed what he doesn’t want and what he thinks he wants which is different than what I’ve imagined. Ultimately I put the deposit down on a dress that I adored instead of taking a chance on a dress that maybe hopefully PB will like. So hopefully PB will love what I love (gamble).
Next, color and theme and decor. All me. PB doesn’t interject and lets me have what I’m imagining. Maybe I’m being extra sensitive here just because I am after all a girl, I swear there are little comments here and there that if it were up to him it’d be different. Not in so many words but I swear something along those lines in passing. And it hurts my feelings.
Then there’s the actual planning. Speaking with vendors is actually pretty tough. You’d think that since they do this for weddings ALL THE TIME (this is their job, right?!) that they’d have it all figured out and tied up with a bow for you to just walk in and either piece things together or customize but nope. I guess the thought behind that is they don’t want anyone to feel like its too cookie-cutter or similar to everyone elses’ “special day”. I call BS.
And today I hit another road bump. We’ve been toying around with an idea for party favors and the man I’ve been working with is just downright a jerk. He’s curt. He’s not thorough (albeit he answers my emails very quickly) but doesn’t pick up the phone when I call. Annoying. Is giving me a bait and switch on pricing. And is just difficult to work with. He’s a specialty vendor so it’s not like I can just go down the street to someone else which is why I’ve tolerated it so much and it was PB’s idea which made me want to make this work even more but I am at the short end of my stick. Near tears even just dealing with this man and it finally dawned on me. The reason wedding planning sucks is because of the industry. They make it difficult. I think it’s drama-filled to fuel the industry. Yes, the matrimonial controversy.
So I find myself back where I started before I got engaged, I hate weddings. They suck. But I also can’t wait for mine and have the time of my life. This bride-to-be is feeling so much better after the rant. Woot! Thanks for bearing with me and letting me unload my frustration with non-type-a’s who don’t want to be efficient and get things done.